How Can You Protect Yourself Without Being Judgmental?

Judgment is accompanied by a negative emotional reaction. You don’t like what you see, you resist what you experience. Your expectations are unsatisfied. You lose fun and thus lose energy.

Discerning is seeing a person or a circumstance as it is. You observe the quality of other individuals without painful emotional reactions to your observations. In this case, you act as a rational observer and your energy maintains.

Judging is seeing yourself as superior to another person. Discerning is seeing others clearly. Judgment has an emotional charge to it, it makes one person a victim and another a villain, you have compulsive reactions while judging. Discernment allows you to observe, think, act with care.

There may be art in how to handle cases in reality.

For example: You dislike the way your friend talks to you. If you say: “You are rude, I don’t like your attitude.”, then you are judging and your friend’s feeling is hurt despite the fact that you are wounded as well. A better way to react is to say: “Oh, my, are you okay, dear?”, then your friend will be okay or feel guilty, the positive relation remains.

Good Luck to You regarding friendships, partnerships, and blogging comments exchanges.

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27 thoughts on “How Can You Protect Yourself Without Being Judgmental?

  1. This is so very true, Jingle!! we never know what pain or problems a friend is going through. We must always be kind, understanding and wish them well.

    And I love what Mother Theresa says about judging — it leaves no room for loving.

    Deep!

    xo

  2. so nice jingle!

    i remembered what mother theresa said:”if we judge people, we leave to chance to love them.”

    or something like that.

    sometimes, we have to get down our high horses of pride for us to see and like people. 😉

    Good day! 😉

  3. Nice post jingle. Kudos to you for spreading positivity around through your writings. Keep blogging and smiling always 🙂

  4. This is such a good post Jingle. Try as we might not to judge others, sometimes it’s something that comes naturally and we might only realised the result of our actions once it’s too late. But a post like this stops us in our tracks to allow us to reflect and think. THANK YOU VERY MUCH JINGLE!!!

  5. I love this well thought and relevant post… I totally agree with you…
    I do not care to be judge hence I do not to the same but again,
    we can only do so much against others opinion about it.
    I try to be wise.
    hugs
    shakira

  6. An excellent dissertation. Good use of rational reasoning here. People are fallible. From time to time our fallibility asserts itself. The positive thing is to know what has happened, when we make errors, including judgemental statements, and then to try to do something about this, recognising our errors, our fallibility, and learning from this. We hope others also perceive our fallibility and will be compassionate in their reaction and/or responses. This way we will learn from each other and hope we can move forward in a spirit of mutual understanding and harmony. We have a duty of care to our neighbor and if we ask “who then is my neighbor?”.. the answer is….”my neighbor is anyone who is likely to be affected by my actions” …

    Best wishes,
    John

  7. good post…sometimes it is a fine line between showing you care by confronting and offending. show the heart behind it, it will steer you right.

  8. I do not believe I have the right to judge another. I do believe I have the right to express my opinion, in a nice way! 🙂 Make it a great day today! 🙂

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